Today I want to talk about DIETING. Dieting doesn’t work. You know this, I know this, we all know this. I want you to think for a minute about your life, and the lives of all the people (particularly the women) in your world. How many of them have been on a diet? Really think. When I did this, I realized that a huge percentage of the women I know have tried dieting. Including me!
Now I want you to think of those same women – how many of them have kept the weight off? Really think. Did they honestly keep the weight off?
The statistics of dieting are not good. So chances are that they didn’t keep the weight off and didn’t keep that body they had. Whether it was a 3 day juice fast, or a 7 day cleanse, or a 30 day intense diet/exercise program, maybe even supplements or wraps or meal replacement shakes. For a while, those women would think it was awesome and feel like they were in control! And then, inevitably, after the program had ended or they had burned out, they got tired of trying to be someone they’re not and they gain the weight back.
Now if you have dieted and kept the weight off, AWESOME! Know that you are in a very very small percentage of women and men that use dieting successfully and permanently.
The statistics of dieting are staggeringly depressing. Up to 95% of people who use dieting for weight loss gain the weight back PLUS extra weight. This might resonate with you.
Dieting doesn’t work.
And yet, we keep doing it! We do it over and over and over again and expect a different result. That is the very definition of insanity! We think “this time, it’s going to be different. I will stick with it and I’m really going to change my life. I’m going to learn to love Brussel sprouts and green beans and I’m not going to want Oreos and ice cream anymore!” But guess what – you will still want Oreos and ice cream because you’re a human being.
We throw all of our trust into an outside source telling us what to do. It’s funny because now, even in the dieting world, the word “diet” is bad! People selling diet products will say “It’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle”. Well guess what – different word, same promise. They’re still saying that if you just use their product or do as they say, you will be happier.
The problem I have with the dieting industry is not only that they sell unattainable results for most people, but also that they start from this premise that you are broken and not good enough as you are. That you need to be fixed. If you will just give them the $99.95, you too can be happy and healthy forever!
It’s a lie! And it needs to be exposed as a lie. We don’t need to be fixed because we’re not broken. Whether we are 90 lbs or 900 lbs, we are worthy of love exactly as we are. We are fully deserving of respect no matter the size of our body or our body fat percentage.
Change, real change, has to begin inside. Behavior modification techniques, which is basically what diets are, will work for a while. So it will make us feel really good because it’s working for a month or however long!
Instead of starting from the outside from our inspiration photos or trying to get “bikini ready”, let’s start where change actually begins: inside.
Let’s throw away the diets forever! Let’s never diet again!
Doesn’t that sound so good? It is so good.
Let’s start with loving ourselves! Because guess what – love is the only power that can lead to lasting change.
I’m going to say it again – are you listening?
LOVE IS THE ONLY POWER THAT CAN LEAD TO LASTING CHANGE.
Until you love yourself exactly as you are today, without putting it contingent upon you being a certain way, you can never become the person you want to be. It’s a horrible paradox that you can have a desire to change but don’t need to change to feel good about yourself.
Self-hate and shame never have, and never ever will, lead to lasting change or to the results you want.
If you hate yourself into changing, or punish yourself to change, then when you get to where you think you want to be, you won’t be happy. It will be a false positive. You may even have a six pack! But if you hated yourself into that, it won’t last. And it’s not even what you really want, is it?
So stop believing all those false promises that diets give you. Instead of looking for the next best trick or supplement, turn inward. Listen to your body wisdom that is in there. I promise it’s in there! It may be buried under layers of toxic beliefs about nutrition and health and body image, but it’s there! And it’s waiting to speak the truth to you.
If you’ll listen to it, you don’t need anyone else to sell you anything! It’s all inside of you. It’s not about a diet, it’s all about you.