So many women often feel out of control around food. They feel like they have no willpower or control, they can’t stop themselves. Maybe they have even used the word “addiction”. If you’ve ever felt that way, first of all I have too so you’re not alone, and second of all this message is for you.
Our issues with food are actually not about food. At all. Our relationship with food is such a huge part of being a human being. Our relationship with food and dealings with food is a huge part of life. We shop for food, we think about food, we prepare food, we eat food, we clean up after food, right? Food is a pretty central part of being alive. It’s pretty necessary. We put a lot of effort into it.
When we get frustrated with our relationship with food it can spill over into a lot of negative emotions.
I believe that we were put into physical bodies partly to learn how to deal with food. How to nourish ourselves. How to eat well. How to navigate our emotions around this central thing of food.
When I first heard the term “eating psychology”, I thought “Oh! How interesting!” And that’s the reaction I get from a lot of people who hear I’m an eating psychologist. Because it is! It is so interesting, because the psychology of eating is so central to the human experience.
But really eating psychology is just normal psychology. It’s dealing with our emotions and relationships with food. It’s so much more than about the food. If you feel like you’re out of control, or turning to food to stuff down your emotions, it’s not about the food.
If you want to heal your relationship with food and with your body, you have to be willing to go deeper than “I’m going to stop eating sugar” or dropping to a certain number of calories a day. It’s so much bigger than that!
There’s a good reason you’re turning to sugar: because of some emotion be it anger, sadness, loneliness, or fear, that you don’t want to feel and you want to be cut off from so you eat sugar.
We are so good at doing this that sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it. We think we’re just eating ice cream because we want ice cream. Sometimes, it’s not about the ice cream, but we don’t even get that deep and think it’s about the ice cream. It’s not, it’s so much deeper than that.
Discovering how to navigate yourself around food is not about the food. Really it’s about becoming the person that you’re supposed to be, being happy and peaceful in your own skin, and feeling peace around food, feeling like you’re in charge instead of letting food control you. That’s like the central issue around my work.
That’s really what I want to say: If you have issues around food – food binging, whatever, you think it’s a food issue but it’s really so much more than that. You have to be willing to go deeper than the food to fix the food. Food is the tip of the iceberg, and when you heal everything underneath that, the food issue just goes away.
The field of eating psychology is such a fascinating world and I love being a part of it! If you think this all sounds interesting but aren’t quite sure, schedule a free 20 minute clarity call! You can ask me whatever questions you want and I can help explain some things for you. I want to help everyone fix their relationship with food. Not because mine is perfect, because it’s not, but it’s so illuminating to realize there’s more to it than just calorie counting.
Yes, I believe in good nutrition, but I also believe in a healthy emotional life, and I think the two totally go hand in hand.