I recently had a conversation with a woman that gave me a lot to think about. It was a great conversation and ever since I’ve been mulling it over in my mind. I have a few thoughts I want to share with you about my work and what I’m doing here.
In this conversation, this woman was expressing to me her intense frustration with a lot of things, particularly her diet, her body, and how she feels. When she was saying these things to me, even though we weren’t talking in person I wanted to reach out and wrap my arms around her. I felt this deep love for this person.
Second of all, the things that she was saying resonated so much with me. I have been there, I have been where she is. I’ve been the one who saw a picture of myself and thought “That is not me”. Or every time I looked in the mirror feeling totally embarrassed, hating myself. I’ve been the woman trying every diet and program and desperately thinking “I cannot look like this for one more day”.
I’ve been there. And it’s the worst place, this place of depression and sadness.
So I’ve been thinking about it. What I want to tell you is that if you are there, if you’ve been there, if you are raising your hand saying “yes, that’s me. I hate the way I look and I want to be someone else”, I want to tell you that there is hope.
I feel like I am a missionary, spreading this message of hope for women that it doesn’t have to be like that.
In my studies, I got to study the immune system quite a bit and it was fascinating and I loved it! I see myself, if you look at the world as a body, as a little immune cell attacking this disease of these toxic, poisonous beliefs that we are marinating in that we need to look a certain way to be deserving of love. That we have to live a certain way or be a certain way. Because we don’t.
What’s true is that you are enough exactly as you are. If you never lose a single pound, if you never change a single thing about yourself, you are worthy of love exactly as you are.
I know that sense of panic that takes over: “I can’t be this way, I can’t be this way”. That’s not you. That’s this culture of this toxic belief that we are steeped in that losing weight is the royal road to happiness. It’s not, okay? Weight loss is not the magic pill of happiness to becoming your real self. It’s not!
Becoming your real self is a matter of becoming your real self no matter what you look like.
I want to encourage you, if you are in that place I was and where this woman is and where probably a lot of people are right now, I want to encourage you that it doesn’t have to be like that.
What we need to learn is not the power of weight loss programs or science or even necessarily nutrition, we need to learn the power of love. That is what will change us.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t set goals for ourselves physically. Losing weight can be a worthy goal and a good thing. But when it consumes you and becomes what you’re about or your total focus, it becomes toxic. It can ruin you and it can ruin your life. It can stop you from reaching your full potential as a woman.
I fully believe that we were put on this earth to do things, to become the very best version of ourselves. When we are stopped by that belief that we’re not good enough as we are, we will never reach that potential.
That is Satan’s tool, you guys. He wants us to focus so much on what we are not and what we cannot instead of who we are: daughters of God with divine power inside of us that has nothing to do with the scale. It has nothing to do with who you are.
I hope you can resonate with this. I hope that this message gives you hope and gives you peace. That’s why I am here, that’s what gets me up in the morning as far as this work goes; I just want to spread this message of love to everyone! I want to tell every woman I meet that it’s okay. It doesn’t have to be a battle.
You can relax and be who you are and work from a place of “I love who I am”, because God loves you for who you are. He doesn’t care how much you weigh. He doesn’t care! And neither should you.
Really in the grand scheme of things, that is not your mission in life. There’s so much more that you can accomplish when you’re not focusing on the number on the scale or the weigh you look.
I know that sense of panic from hating how you look, but understand that that feeling is a lie, and it is stopping you from becoming who you are. There is a better way.